Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts

Monday, 21 September 2015

life, week 38 - the most life changing week of 2015


In-between contractions, on our way to the maternity ward, Sølve pulls out his phone and says "let's take an elevator selfie". So we did, and I'm glad we did because 1) this is the last belly shot (week 39) and 2) just one hour after this photo was taken, Sverre was born.    


The first thing I noticed when entering the room where I gave birth was the view. 


A one day old miracle, my son Sverre Johan. Yes, it is quite all right to use big words about the wonder of a newborn human being.


Barselhotellet (hospital) breakfast for the win!



All the love


After two nights we slowly started to get ready to go home (impatiently waiting for Sølve to finish his errands that he for some reason was rather secretive about).


Who doesn't love coming home to a beautiful bouquet on their door step?


And then this in the mail box - from the lovely knitting queen Ingvild. Tusen takk igjen!



Pappa and son doing things they are very good at; sleeping and reading the paper - on the new sofa. I mentioned yesterday that it would be nice to have a more comfortable spot for nursing in the living room. Maybe we should just get that IKEA sofa instead of saving up for something more fancy. (Yet it is sad to see the 60s sofa go. I love the shape of it, but it is not very comfortable.) It was a nice surprise to see that he already fixed it. So this was the secretive errand. Also: so good to be home!


The most challenging part so far of being a new mother again: the sleepless nights.


Soaking in every second of this.


She lined up all the rabbits, gave them three marbles each and tucked them in. As you do.


A moment of idyll in-between all the "be careful" orders. I'm trying my best not to say it every time she touches him. Trying my best not to be overprotective and rather include her as much as possible.


Sleeping in after keeping his mamma awake all night. Lucky guy!


I'm not normally a napper, so I'm working hard on the whole "sleep while the baby sleeps" thing. Some days it is not hard work at all.



She is really into beading these days and she loves when her pappa helps making dinosaurs and stuff.


First little stroll in the neighbourhood; to the grocery store to get the softest toilet paper. Those of you who have given birth, know the importance of this... (Sorry! Was that too much information?)


And then all three of them went out to jump on the trampoline. 


Sunday lunch with guests who were eager to meet little mr Sverre.


Yes, he is definitely a keeper. Also: Wow! Clean windows are the best!


One of many. Lucky me!

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Week 38: September 14-20

Saturday, 19 September 2015

things I like lately - new mother version

Oh the bliss of having a sleeping newborn on my chest! 

- our baby son, Sverre Johan, was born on Tuesday - two weeks before his due date
- Sverre is a beautiful, healthy baby
- so thankful that my body deals so well with (natural) birth
- so thankful that the nursing is already going so well (it took me a while to get the hang of it with Sara)
- seeing Sara as a loving and caring big sister - although she seems to struggle with some mixed emotions too, as expected
- seeing Sølve as a proud father of two
- feeling so much more in control of the newborn situation now compared to when Sara was fresh into this world
- folkene på Fødeloftet og barselhotellet i Stavanger - en mye bedre start på mammalivet enn KK i Bergen (sorry, Bergen!)
- the celebratory glass of champagne
- brie on Rugsprø, salami sandwiches and snacking on ibérico ham (foods that pregnant women in Norway are recommended to stay off)
- being ok with the fact that I will still be wearing my pregnancy jeans for a while (note to self: reorganise the wardrobe from pregnancy clothes to nursing friendly clothes)
- this nursing top from Lindex (perfect for layering) - I didn't use these kind of tops when nursing Sara, but now I'm already hooked - need to stock up!
- this night shirt - perfect for nursing
- flowers galore in our living room - thanks to generous family, friends and colleagues
- the decision to get a new sofa - a comfortable spot for nursing in the living room - right away instead of saving up for something more fancy (like this or this)
- looking forward to slooowly starting to exercise again - starting today with the first little walk with the pram

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Things I don't like lately

- sleepless nights - so hard to adjust!
- finding a way to guide Sara to be careful when being with Sverre without constantly giving her strict orders - any advice?

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PS: Check the motherhood label for more baby/toddler/motherhood related posts including a series of guest posts (published in late 2011 after Sara was born) from my mother friends who give advice to new mothers: Jeanette on motherhood, Norunn on motherhood, Margrete on motherhood, Barbara on motherhood, Caroline Kaspara on motherhood,    

Thursday, 17 September 2015

introducing: Sverre Johan

Two days old and ready to leave the hospital and go home.

Four hours old and treating his mamma very well.

Big sister Sara mets baby brother Sverre for the first time.

First family photo as a family of four.

Just like his big sister, our baby boy Sverre Johan, decided to make his entrance into this world two weeks before his due date, Tuesday morning September 15. He was in quite a hurry too; born less than an hour after we arrived at the hospital. We are happy and excited (plus a tiny bit terrified) to start adjusting to a new life as a family of four. 

Thursday, 23 January 2014

thoughts on blogging about my baby

Mogen, Hardangervidda, August 2013 | Fuji Superia 200, Canon EOS 500N

There has recently been a debate (again) in Norwegian media about wether or not parents should post photos/videos of their children in social media. Psychologists warn parents, especially mom bloggers, to be careful of what they post, because children can be bullied because of things posted about them.

When I got pregnant with Sara, I knew I would be restrictive about sharing too much. This is what I wrote back then:

When I post photos of myself, Sølve or my family/friends we have agreed to it; we know what it implies to have our photo posted online and we are ok with it. When (or if) I post photos of our baby girl, she will not be able to agree to it. At some point she will be old enough to have an opinion on this (hopefully based on her parents’ thoughtful guiding) and she will have an online life of her own. I don’t want to put her in an awkward/embarrassing position because of everything I posted about her when she was a baby/toddler/kid. I will probably post a few photos of her, but I’m guessing they will mostly be “Flickr friendly” (photos that have a human touch, but you cannot see or recognize who the person is).

That said, I respect that other parents have a “less restricted” attitude to posting photos of their children. We all have different levels of how edited our lives are online.

I still have the same view on the topic. I limit the number of photos I post of Sara. There are a lot of really great photos of her/us that I would love to share, but I restrain myself. Sometimes I feel that I share too much. Since I blog with my full name, photos of Sara show up if I Google her. For some reason, I kind of don't like that. I guess, like probably all other parents, I have that fear in the back of my head what might happen to the photos. Yet it is not something I think a lot about. 

On the other hand, it feels natural to share photos of Sara because she is my darling daughter and she is such a huge part of my life. And as you know, I love sharing glimpses of my everyday life. I hope that Sara, when she is old enough to Google herself, will feel fine with what I have shared of her life on the Internet. On a different note, it will be really interesting to see what social media is like when she is old enough to Google herself. 

Thanks Ingvild for the inspiration to write this post. PS: thoughts on sharing my everyday life 

I'm interested to hear, what are your thoughts on this? 

Tuesday, 3 September 2013

guest post: UNA.dos.tres' days



Today's post is brought to you by Nadja of UNA.dos.tres. Even though I have only met Nadja once - over coffee and giggles at Dromedar in Bergen - I feel like I have know her forever. She shares her life - with its ups and downs, grief and happiness - in a real, honest and beautiful way. Nadja lives in Trondheim with her husband Geir and daughter Una (4 years old). Here is a typical day in their life: 


Unfortunately our "day" starts two times. First time it's in the middle of the night, hearing two little feet come running. A second later, Una and her lamb occupy our bed like it is the most natural thing in the world. We are usually too tired to argue. Second awakening happens much, much later, sometimes even too late. Una, like me, loves late mornings. Geir is the early one in our family, so he is up first, while we, the girls, stay in bed. These moments are important, because if our little tiger is waken up too sudden the whole day can turn out wrong.

When we first are up, we truly love mornings. We almost always eat breakfast at home, even though it sometimes make us be a bit late for the whole rest of a day. We usually make future plans at breakfast table, and we draw a drawing or two. (Making drawings is a favorite nowdays. Usually her animal toys are her models. She is planning a grand opening of an exhibition and everyone she ever knew will get their own animal drawing.)



After breakfast we doll up. She hates to do her hair but loves to wear dresses. Regardless of the weather. We live in a green house on top of a steep hill, central in Trondheim city. The tram usually takes us down to the kindergarden, when we are lucky enough to catch it.



If we don't catch the tram, we walk, since it only takes 10 minutes. Sitting on Geir's shoulders is also an all-time favorite. Una goes to Steiner kindergarden. There are 25 kids all together, divided in two groups. On Mondays they have a trip outside (turdag) and then we have to make her her own food snack. Otherwise the kids are served good vegetarian food. Geir and I work full time, it's challenging, but we really enjoy our work, so it is worth it. What Una does during her working hours (in the kindergarden) we really do not know, except that she is happy being there.



We switch on picking her up, and we usually do grocery shopping on our way from work. Sometimes her grandmother picks her up; these girls are the best friends ever. If the weather is nice, we might stop at the nearby park or take some of Una's friends home with us, but most of the time we are all tired and keen on getting straight home as fast as possible.

Una loves to help preparing the dinner. But sometimes she is so tired that we just let her find peace, playing alone with her toys. Since she has no siblings, she is so good at it, and these moments are magic. Her imaginations really run wild, and most incredibel scenarios for her animal toys are put at play. Lego and railway building are her other favorites. Since we have a view to both train and tram, there is a bit of train spotting happening as well.



If the weather is nice, we spend the time grilling and playing in the garden. The dinners we make during the week are extremely simple. Unfortunately Una is a picky eater, and we struggle to make her like food. She has been like that for ever, and it really is no fun. We are quite tired of pizzas and pasta. Luckily she likes fishcakes. (Hooray!) We finish eating by five o'clock. Since Geir and I love food, we sometimes make a second dinner after she has gone to bed. The good thing is that she loves fruit, so we try to give her tons of it every day. Her favorite lately is raspberry.

Before bedtime we still have some time to play, make some more drawings, puzzle (we are so good at it!) or she practice for her gymnastics. In the weekends she is going to gymnastics, and that's why she is trying a lot of acrobatic tricks in the weekdays as well. But to be honest, none of us are very acrobatic.



One thing we are excellent at though is dancing. We love to dance. Unas favorite is Madonnas Confessions on a dance floor. We have also found two children's records that we love to dance to, Linn Skåbers Mystiske kroker og hemmeligheter, and Tullekattesnutenes Vi vil ut på byen. Both kids and grown up can dance to them.


The supper starts around half past six and is usually slice of bread with cheese or liver paté/leverpostei, a yogurt and a big glass of milk. We usually read a book while eating, if we are not making another drawing. We do not have a tv, but sometimes Una watches a dvd or barnetv (children television) on our computer. When Una was younger she always used to take an evening bath every evening. She does not anymore, but it happens that she is sooooo dirty after a day in a kindergarden that the bath is the first thing we do. She always takes her vitamins and tran (d-vitamin fish oil), brushes her teeth and make a trick for us. This means she runs through the apartment and (tries) to make a flip into our big bed. She is in bed by 1930.




Geir and I switch on putting Una to sleep, every second night is mine. As Astrid and Maria, we stay in her room until she is asleep. I love this, for me it is such a precious time. She holds my hand tight; she has done that since she has been a little baby. We do not read a nighttime story, we talk together. Una loves to talk. And I love talking to her. And then suddenly everything gets quite, and I just get feel extremely privileged that this little magical creature is a part of my world. (And then usually I fell asleep on a floor as well.)


When I wake up, Geir is either sleeping in a couch or making us some delicious dinner. We clean up the worst mess, but never enough. (I have big ambitions on getting better in doing this. It is so good not to wake up in a total mess.) If we don't have to do some work, we talk at the dinner table (talking is the favorite for all of us, i guess), I check my favorite blogs or we watch a dvd. Right now we are totally hooked on Game of Thrones. This grown up time is very important to us, and this of course means we go to bed way too late. Only a few house before small little feet come running to occupy our bed.



That was our day, Astrid. I sometimes wish we had more routines, but I also like the unpredictiblety. The weekends are still my favorite, but I must admit that I'm becoming more and more fond of everyday life as well.

P.S: I wrote this post before the long summer holiday and I must admit that our days have changed a lot. I'm excited to see how our daily routines will turn out during this fall. We are still going on our holiday clock.

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Wednesday, 28 August 2013

milestone



Right now Sara is in barnehagen (kindergarten) without me or Sølve for the first time. When I left her, she said "ha det mamma" (bye mummy) and kept on playing. No tears. I felt a little choked up though. She has been there for 1,5 hour now and I just got a text message from one of the staff saying everything is fine. I'm at home; feeling scattered, not quite sure what to do. I have not shed any tears, but I feel a little nervous ache in my stomach. 

Monday, 5 August 2013

the holiday is gone, the everyday is on

summer sunset after rain; I like this photo a lot | Fuji Superia 200, Canon EOS 500N

Today was not the best day. It was pretty crap actually. Sara woke at 5:15 am and wouldn't go back to sleep. I kept my mood up in the early morning hours, looking forward to her good, long nap later in the morning. No such luck. She slept for half an hour. After that the whole day has just been about killing time until bedtime. Also, it has been pouring down all day. Bleh! 

On days like these, I think it is extra important to make note of the positive and good things during the day. So, this is what I liked today

- a (mostly) tidy apartment 
- leftover pasta with melted cheese for lunch
- having two rolls of film developed
- Norwegian sweet cherries
- lots of giggles with Sara - despite both of us being super tired all day
- I made a surprisingly good risotto for dinner
- a chat with our neighbor who has a son Sara's age 
- a glass of red wine 
- making dough for no knead bread (will be baked tomorrow morning) 

So, any good things in your life today?

Tuesday, 25 June 2013

guest post: My Life as Kristin's days


Today's post is written by Kristin, who shares the loveliest little glimpses of her life on southeast coast of Norway - with her fiancé and daughter - on her blog; My Life as Kristin. Kristin is one of those persons who manages to turn even the most mundane moments into poetry. Everyday life looks so peaceful yet real through her lens.




Vår dag starter med et brak klokken 06.00. ”Maaaaamma, ståååå opp”, gjaller det fra sengen, og jeg har ikke annet valg enn å dra meg opp! Mie (blir 3 år i september) klarer egentlig helt fint å klatre ut av sengen på egen hånd, men av en eller annen grunn er denne evnen glemt rundt soloppgang. Vi har lovet henne ny, stor seng når vi flytter inne i det nye huset – kjenner at det kan bli svært interessant.






Men, når jeg først er kommet meg opp, og har fått satt på kaffe og varmet melk til Mie, finnes det ikke noe bedre tid på dagen. Ro og stillhet sammen med den fineste personen i verden, og selvfølgelig Lille Jack og Fantorangen. Etter x antall kaffekopper smører jeg nistepakker og klargjør barnehagesekk og skolesekk. Kunne ønske jeg kunne skryte på meg at jeg er en slik mamma som lager smileys i agurken og fancy frokost-muffins-to-die-for, men det er jeg ikke! Men, jeg sørger likevel for at nistepakken er sunn og variert, med grovt brød og frukt/grønt. Jeg har alltid grov rundstykkedeig i kjøleskapet, slik at jeg kan steke ferske rundstykker hver dag (oppskriften er genial, og jeg deler den gjerne). Mies barnehage ligger i nærheten av Pål sin jobb, det er derfor han som leverer og henter henne. Etter at de har dratt, gjør jeg meg klar for skolen og løper (som regel) til bussen. Jeg drar på skolen hver dag for å lese, uavhengig av om jeg har forelesning eller ei. Syntes det er greit å få lest så mye som mulig når Mie er i barnehagen, slik at jeg kan ta ettermiddager og helger fri med god samvittighet.











Nå har vi derimot sommerferie, og det betyr lange morgener med deilig frokost. Etter at vi har spist er Mie som regel flink til å komme i gang med leken på egen hånd, slik at jeg får ryddet og satt på vaskemaskinen. Vi er stelt og ute av huset til i halv 11-11 tiden, da går vi på tur og ordner diverse ærender. Mie blir veldig fort rastløs og er veldig glad i og være ute. Det skal derfor bli kjempe deilig å flytte, slik at vi kan være ute i hagen og leke.







Pål er hjemme fra jobb i firetiden, og da pleier vi å spise middag. Det går for det meste i ulike varianter av kylling og pasta. Jeg er ikke så veldig glad i fisk, men for Mie (og Pål sin skyld) forsøker jeg å lage det hvertfall én gang i uken. Jeg elsker pizza, og torsdager pleier jeg å lage ”restepizza”. Siden vi handler for hele uken på fredager, er dette en genial måte å tømme kjøleskapet på. Etter middag drar vi ut, enten på lekeplassen, på tur i skogen eller på biblioteket. Nå om sommeren plukker vi som regel blomster, det fineste jeg vet er en bukett markblomster på bordet.








Etter barne-tv og kveldsmat dusjer Mie og gjøres klar for sengen. Før hun sovner synger vi sanger fra sangboken og snakker om morgendagen. Ettersom hun har sluttet og sove på dagtid er hun i seng allerede før 19.00. Etter leggetid har jeg som regel alltid en date med klesstativet, som av en merkelig grunn alltid er fullt... Jeg rydder og vasker opp, før jeg inntar sofaen. Super deilig å nå ha ferie, slik at jeg kan lese en bok, som ikke er pensum, med god samvittighet. Ellers leser jeg meg gjennom favorittbloggene, og ser litt på tv. Pål pleier ofte å spille gitar, før vi spiser kveldsmat sammen eller tar en øl. Vi elsker og se på film, og ser gjerne en film før kvelden avrundes i 11-tiden - da er vi helt kaputt.





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